"Cheater Cheat-Sheet"
What is the single world coming to, I ask? …And have we really dropped to this low?
Today, I opened up MSN.ca to find a question posed to me in their feature article: ” Is a fling really worth it?” I’m thinking to myself — What kind of freekin’ feature article is this, and why would anyone even ask a question to their readership like that?
So, I had to click through, because I was dumbfounded, to be quite honest.
It’s an “article” (actually an AD) written by Lavalife, discussing the merits and downfalls of different types of cheating, and *excuses* given for those indiscretions. How disgusting. That’s journalism, according to MSN? My favourite line was in last paragraph of the article: “We’re all grown-ups, so you have to decide what to do on your own.”
Really? No shit, you moron! Thanks for pointing that out, Lavalife. How about focussing on the devastation of trust the partner who’s cheated on must face, or sexually-transmitted diseases that you could pass along to the one you obviously don’t love.
This isn’t journalism.
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Gah. Cheating is, in my opinion, one of the worst things someone can do to someone else. Having been cheated on a few times, I can’t think of anything that damages a relationship more. (Okay, I suspect turning into a crazed axe murderer or pulling an Andrea Yates would do it, but cheating’s right up there.) The cheating my ex-fiance did hurt even more than the time I had to call 911 because he’d gone temporarily psycho.
Most people find it strange when I get vehemently angry about the concept of cheating, considering that my boyfriend has two girlfriends, and both of us have multiple partners, and I don’t really have much sexual jealousy. The nice thing about this is that we both KNOW that we have multiple partners. We have a well laid out agreement — and breaking that agreement still constitutes as cheating. For example, I can’t sleep with his best friend. To do so would break our agreement and constitute cheating. Which is fine, I didn’t really have any intention of doing so, but it’s one of our rules.
Jealousy I can handle. A lack of trust I can’t. My last relationship ended because my boyfriend broke our agreement. Could no longer trust him. Evidently this is a deal breaker for me.
I hereby declare that I shall remain single forever!!! (( Its just easier ))
While I haven’t read the article & probably won’t, I just want to point out that I met my boyfriend at LAvalife!
I was very honest in my profile and in one week of posting, I had met him and were arranging to meet in a public coffee shop.
We have been going out for a year & 8 months.
I know how lucky I am to have found someone equally honest.
I guess each one decides what they want out of their profile, and add a good measure of luck/karma/fate to the mix.
Is it journalism? Hell no. But having read through the whole article, I found many points in there suggesting that having an affair is a bad idea.
Your favourite line about us all being adults goes on to say: “But just think for a bit before you do anything that might hurt someone else and yourself irreparably. A moment of rationality might save you a whole lot of regret.” This hardly seems to me like an encouragement to indiscretion.
Is the article tactless? Yes. Does the advertising on this particular page demonstrate bad judgement of epic proportion? Absolutely. I just don’t see it as an invitation to, or instruction guide on, cheating. That’s all. (Although I’ll be the first to say that the author’s comments on the advisability of cheating are somewhat understated.)
As always, one person’s opionion. Your mileage may vary.
MSNBC also runs diet tips from Weight Watchers etc. I wouldn’t go there for journalism. I wouldn’t go there at all except that MSN redirects me there when I log out of my Hotmail spambait account.
who called it journalism? msn?
Everybody cheats. The only difference is too what degree. I remember a conversation with a particular woman who thought that thinking about sex with another was cheating. I was cheating her ass off the entire time I was talking with her! I have never let it cross over the physical boundary though. I blame infidelity on the fact that the female figure is overpowering to us males. We can’t help ourselves. It’s in our genes…….literally. Later, heal up.