Dating done differently?
I’ve decided it’s time to dunk my baby toe into the dating pool again.
I’m going to do things a bit differently this time, and by doing so, I’m striving for different results.
First of all, my hope is to date casually for a while. Is there such a thing as ‘monogamously casual’? If so, that’s what I want. No one-night-stands, no dating three guys at the same time (not that I’ve ever done that), but, slowly get to know someone over time, while maintaining my independence.
We’ll see if that works. Who knows…
Wish me luck!!
ps: If you want to see my online profile (which is by no means the only form of dating I want to do… I bet you can guess my username on Lavalife!)
pps: On an entirely different topic… I think you should go and vote for me at Squidoo’s Z-List of Blogs! It’ll be fun! You might find another blog there that you’d enjoy, too!
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Good for you have some T time and get to know the person. No need to rush enjoy time to yourself, hehehhe…. HAPPY NEW YEAR! heheheh
Just out of curiosity, what were the results of your poll regarding dating. If I’m not mistaken, wasn’t meeting people through friends ranked the highest by all who participated?
Just throwing the sand in the air….
Happy New Year! BTW.
Thanks D! Looking forward to new experiences!
Hey Tom… The results were in favour of “friends”, you are right. And, if any of my friends would actually introduce me to their single, qualified guy friends, I’d be all over that! Remember, I said “which is by no means the only form of dating I want to do…” — I’d prefer not to rely on that as my only means of meeting potential guys.  (Hope you have a fantastic New Years, also!)
You crazy kids and your online dating! Never again will there be the magic of looking across a room.
I haven’t tried lavalife in a while.
Originally I got a lot of offers from elderly men! he he… A lot of older men want pretty and young girlfriends. Also, someone that I knew previously in real life (who I had absolutely no interest in) sent me pictures of himself doing muscle poses shirtless…. Sometimes it can be odd but mostly fun, I went on a date once from the telepersonals… we didn’t mesh but he was definitely a quality guy (one of my friends incidentally knew him, so she confirmed!).
Did you find writing your bio hard? I can never figuire out what to put in mine!
Cheers,
P.
From one single person to another, GOOD LUCK! Keep your readers posted on how it goes. This could be very interesting.
Patricia: It’s easy, especially when I had friends’ input. I’ve updated it twice now… (and eagerly awaiting the latest version to be posted) I find that there’s a few older men messaging, but not that many.
spoonman! I’ve missed ya! Thanks for the good luck. What are you doing to mitigate your singlehood (if in fact, you want to?) — I’m always curious as to how others are attempting to find someone special
The online thing has certainly worked swimmingly with a few of my friends, but I didn’t fave succcess there. However, I did meet the hubby *online* so who knows.
On a reality show I am too ashamed to admit that I watch, this girl had a rule where she wouldn’t kiss someone until she knew them for three weeks. I hsave never had such a rule, but I can see how that would modulate the progress if *necking* isn’t an option.
All I know is that it is good to see you open and not jaded. Hsang in there, sweetie.
Have you tried Urban Rec (http://www.urbanrec.ca/)? Lots of cute guys there and the activities are fun. I highly recommend Beach Volleyball train n’play as well as the curling bonspeil (you don’t have to know how to play, I’ve been to 2 tournaments and I’m still not totally sure what I’m doing… he he).
I agree with you that casual is so the way to go. It gives you a chance to get to know the other person without getting too tangled too quickly. One day, when I’m back in the scene I’ll have to give that a try…
OK… I can’t keep my mouth shut on the couple of comments relating to “older men” that are trying to hook up with younger women. I would like to share my thoughts as one of these “older men” ok?
I am 48 and was married to someone for 20 years. We were divorced last year. While I am not actively searching specifically for a younger woman, I do know that I find more interest in a younger one than one closer to my age. The main reason for this is that most “older” women (or at least all of the ones close to my age that I know….) spend most of their time sitting on the couch watching TV and not out doing things. The fruit of this “activity” leads to someone that is out of shape and usually over weight. Both of which I find unattractive. Most of the younger women like to go out and enjoy life vs. sitting on their butts watching life pass by.
It’s not so much that I would like a “younger and pretty girlfriend”, but someone that can keep up with an “older man”!!
Mostly I would like to find someone that I could just chill with and enjoy their company. I am all over that casual, go slow thing you are talking about T!!!!
I am glad to hear that your holiday’s were filled with joy Tanya and that the New Year brings you and the ones close to you the VERY best!!!
Rick
I just read this again – it sounds like what you need is a LOVER!