Although I'm very new to it… (recently, speaking)
Dating has been very ‘interesting’ (yes, I’m using that word liberally) so far:
– I’m fighting with every ounce of my being not to change my profile to some bitter, cynical chick’s profile exclaiming that if you are a serial dater or looking for a quick screw, you need not apply to me.
– Additionally, if I get one more one sentence reply to my profile, I’m seriously going to let the next poor sap have it.
– As of tonight, and a lengthy conversation with Vern, I’ve decided to be far choosier with my time and people I meet. (despite the fact that I’ve only been on a couple of dates so far)
– Okay, perhaps I’m jumping too fast to conclusions with regards to my dating habits, but I’ve gotta start doing this whole online dating thing differently if I want different results. I currently have a couple of close friends on a ‘dating panel’ and I think I need to lean on them more for advice on good matches.
– I’m already contemplating other avenues to meet like-minded single guys who really do want to meet someone special. So far, Vern and I have decided to get involved in a speed dating event in mid-February. I think this will be a positive and fun experience for us both!
– Additionally, I’m going to date even less than I am now, and hopefully only accept evenings out with guys who get through my panel of friends. They seem to know, far better than I, who I’d be a good match with.Â
So, there you have it. There’s the current dating status of this single-in-the-city chick. Believe it or not, I’m still having fun, despite the tone of this entry.
Do you have an ideas as to where I can meet Mr. Chemistry, or Mr. Really Great Guy?
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Get OFF THE INTERNET!!! You’re not using it correctly!
Like the new photo.
Around here there’s singles events, from craft nights, to skiing, to singles dances and meditation classes. Starting off with a shared interest could be a head start.
I like the idea of this http://www.dinnerworks.ca/ although I think you said you knew about them and they wanted lots of $$$
Actually it’s funny, I don’t qualify what with not being single and all, but I’d love to do something like that each month just to meet new people. The group thing in the right age range to me sounds like it would be more fun and you’d be more likely to meet some great folks… of course, they don’t share cost and you must wait to hear from one of their sales folks. Oy.
I don’t know… Oh. here’s a thought; Date Vern.
Again.
GOOD PLAN! I think you should find something that interests you and do things that you like, through friends, networking, mutual interests love will find you….hehehehhe. Speed dating sounds good than you can filter through the losers faster..
Do you take blind date suggestions from your readers? We know single useless men in the BC area. May be worth a date.
Actually, it probably isn’t. When you’re REALLY desperate, drop me a line. We’ll try to get you hooked up.
Is hooking up a good term? Arrghh, I’ve said too much.
Hi T:
Sounds like you’re having fun with dating. For lavalife which category did you put yourself in? Dating or Relationship or Both?
Most of my guy friends put themselves in the dating category and not the relationship one. I’m not sure why exactly I think the relationship one sounds to serious to them?! Guys weigh in on this one!
One of the best ways to meet guys is through outdoor sport events & activities. They looooove them. Try http://www.urbanrec.ca/ they have some good ski trips, curling competitions etc… I did volleyball train & play with them a couple of years ago and there were lots of cute guys there. Also try kayaking clubs such as ecomarine. I’ve also met some great guys on the grouse grind!
Have fun meeting people.
Cheers,
P.
When you meet Mr. Chemistry or Mr. Really Great Guy, can you ask him right away if he has a brother?
hrm… I have no advice to give. I hide my online profile every 2 weeks because I get so frustrated with it all…
Vern: Ha! If there was a better, more effective way, I’d run screaming from the online dating process altogether. But, it’s just one means of meeting new people, not the only means!
Pearl: Thanks! I decided to change up my photo recently. I’ll probably do that more often now. …I agree that’s a great way to meet new people!
Miranda:
Dinnerworks would be great, but it’s not really designed for singles. I would love to go to a networking event on a regular basis with you! Perhaps we can find something that isn’t necessarily just about singles (which is better, anyhow, because it’s less of a meat market, and more of casual get-to-know-new-people situation).
Shnewt: Are you on drugs? ;P
D: I’m really looking forward to speed dating. I can’t believe I actually put a speed dating company together so long ago, only to not have time to keep it going. The company’s event that I’m going to sounds interesting… I’ll definitely be blogging about my experience after I go!
Useless Man: Y’know, I’ve been harrassing (seriously, my friends will attest to this) everyone I know to set me up with single guys that they think would be a good fit. Not much luck there… Oh well. (nothing wrong with the term ‘hook-up’ in my opinion)
Patricia: Great ideas… I’m definitely going to look into the Urban Rec link you sent. (Perhaps you’d like to come along with me to one of the evening events?) I’m in both dating and relationship, since I don’t want to miss an opportunity to meet someone special in either category. To me, they are both really the same.
reddirtroad: Ha! I’ll make that my priority!!
Ya know I find it really refreshing that you struggle finding a “normal” guy T. Being single again after 20 years of marriage… this “dating” sh@t is almost too much for me. So far I have been out on 3 dates over the last year.
2 of them I found out in a very shortly into the date were alcoholics. The other one dropped the “M” word (yeah, MARRIAGE!!) on the first (and will add LAST) date with her.
My kids just laugh at me and tell me to come party with them. The only real issue I see with this is that it will be difficult to ever met someone that is anywhere CLOSE to my age when hanging out with 100 20 year olds.
~sigh~
That is great picture of you, Tan. It looks familiar. Have you used it before?
Good luck on the dating front. It’s not easy work but I guess some effort is worth it since hopefully you’ll be with this person you’re looking for for quite some time. Is using “for” twice bad grammar?
I have a friend who did the speed dating evening – after a couple “dates” she and a guy clicked- they had coffee after and a few months later married. This is about 6 years ago and are very happy – I think it’s a good way.Good luck!
Hey
According to the dinnerworks site, it is only for singles, so I don’t qualify
I wish it weren’t, ’cause I’d surely go! Maybe you’re thinking of another similar group? I’ll go look for alternatives
Mr. Really Great Guy would prolly be found at church. hehehehe!
That’s what I think.. at least you know when you meet them they don’t have underlying motives… :-p
Well what do you know.. you have a lovely name! hehehe! Talk about the first comment I ever left on anyone in 2000 bloggers and I end up on yours. amazing!
You’re in Vancouver.. we’re neighbors then! nice!
I WANNA DO SPEED DATING!
i agree with shnewt – date vern! you’re best friends, and you do everything together anyway .. why not?!
other than that, i’m useless for ideas. i lucked out with rudy. if i’m ever single again, i think i might end up being a lesbian. there are way too many creeps out there for my taste!
Early morning grocery stores.
I’ve heard it works and I am amazed at the number of women that “look me over” when I am there before 10:00am.
Seriously, it really is just a matter of sorting through the clutter and finding mr (or miss) right.
gl in the “hunt” t, you are a great catch and the right person(s) is (are) out there for you…
B.
How about making appearances at places where the type of men you like to meet will frequent?
Friends’ friends?
Social interests club?
Have fun dating netchick!
I met my husband on a dating site (7 years ago). But I did so hate the “I saw your ad on….” Ahem – it’s not an ad d%$khead, it’s a profile…
There’s a prince amongst the frogs – hang in there.
I tried speed dating in Toronto last week and it was a real let-down. A lot of nice people, but I didn’t really click with any of them. I liked all the talking, but didn’t choose anyone. I hope you have better luck!
find a an open mic SPOKEN WORD event. That way, you know already what’s on the guy’s mind before you do anything and then … GET ON THE MIC TOO! that way the guys KNOW what’s on your mind before they do anything also! hehehe
TanNetChick,
If you are waiting for Mr.Chemistry or
Mr.ReallyGreatGuy you may be setting your
expactations too low! After all, life is
NOT a perfect “chemistry” experiment and
do you really want to box yourself in with
a “really great guy” while life is a cabaret
my friend, come hear the music play. Think
BIG, and go with girlfriend to a good Chippendales
type male revue and ENJOY the music and dance.
How would you like to have several Chippendale
hotties as your VAs?!! Life is short, so have
FUN and ENJOY!!!