Thoughts on dating… A month into it
I thought I’d ink down some random things about my dating experiences, so far…
– Interestingly enough, I’ve run into several people that I’ve met through other people who noticed me on PlentyOfFish, and Lavalife. I’ve often wondered, but never asked outright, what made my profile noticable enough to recognize me offline? (because, to be honest, other than people I’ve actually dated, this hasn’t happened to me with men I’ve seen on these sites.)
– Jeremy (my not-so-recent ex for those that don’t know), was very sweet and helpful recently; He placed a ‘testimonial’ on my PoF profile — This was done unsolicited, and his words are very kind. This surprised the heck out of me! And due to his thoughtful act, several guys have actually contacted me based on his words (I’ll pay ya later, Jer… LOL).
– I’ve been on several dates over the month and a half or so of dating now, and I did meet one guy out of the men that I’ve been on a first date with that I’d definitely date again. That said, so far, we’ve only had msn interaction, and that has been very minimal. Sadly, I just don’t think he’s that into me. This happens, of course, but I’m still holding out hope that he’s just extremely busy with work and a transfer to the lower mainland. We’ll see.
– I’m trying very hard to filter out guys that have not-so-obvious red-flags, before I meet them. This is obviously hard to do, because I hate interacting over a ton of emails (most of the time, they aren’t the same in person anyhow) and the phone just doesn’t do it for me (I hate talking on the phone), so I’m trying to ask pointed questions, while at the same time, trying to have a sense of humour. That there, is an oxymoron! Fun in online dating. *sigh*
– Vern and I are signed up to go to a speed dating event on the 21st! That should be fun — The last two times I did it a few years ago, it turned out to be a great night. We’ll see if things have changed since?
– I’ve taken a few weeks off of dating online to get my head straight about priorities, and maintaining a balance with dating and life in general. This time away from LL and PoF has really been helpful!
– And, finally, I’ve come to the realization that being single is actually really great. Do I miss waking up to someone special in the morning, and planning a future with someone? Of course… But, I’m also realizing the benefits of being single: I have much more time for ‘me’, my friends, my hobbies, and just ‘turning off’. And, with my most awesome friends, I’ve certainly not been lonely for interaction and things to do.
So there you have it! I hope you all had a fabulous weekend! I definitely did!is harry on the boat divx
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How many people are we dating? 12 right? Is that right? I have to come up with 11 baseless accusations based on nothing.
“Oh, you seem like a stalker type! Cool! I’m totally there. What’s favorite time of the day to stalk?”
. . . . .
Nobody is going to solve the puzzle now
…That would be terribly funny!
Here’s what Fastlife says about their events:
“At each FastLife event you’ll enjoy complimentary drinks throughout the evening and gourmet hors d’oeuvres, not to mention 10-12 dates with people in your preferred age range.”
One of those dates will be with me! I say we make a scene! No one would forget us then — Just lay one of those lines on me, and I will throw a drink in your face. Then again, maybe not. But the thought of it makes me grin! Hehehe!
Yeah… we could blow $60 each…. or, we could try and get a date.
Hmm…. blow $60 on a laugh…. or a date.
Ya know… Im kind of right down the middle on this one.
It’s good to realize the positives of where you are at the moment.
Good luck with the speed dating thing. I only did it once, and it was interesting but not productive. I’ll be interested in your report.
Hey Vern if you are looking to blow $60 on a laugh – want to make another bet?
Being single rocks. I have a ridiculously girly pink palace, can starfish in bed while hogging the covers and sleep 40 hours over the course of a weekend with noone bothering me. And apparently I’m not the only one! Single girls are now in the majority – 51% vs. 49% married in the US I think I read this a.m.
OK Tanya, come on down to Florida and I’ll take you out for a great time!!
Hi T:
What is Plentyoffish like? I’ve never heard of that dating site before.
Everyone is looking at Patricia funny.
OK, How come Vern is making fun of me……… :-S
Russ… You are so sweet!
Patricia: PoF is a free site, which is pretty good actually! It’s easy to be inundated there with messages though, as there’s no barrier to contact. (www.plentyoffish.com) — Thought you had a special Valentine, though? (and don’t mind Vern… He likes being mean.)
Vern: You are weird. Everyone is looking at you funny.
T: Actually I don’t really “have” a special valentine (darn it), but I did make one for a special person because I thought he deserved one. It was just a simple red paper construction heart.. it was fun.
It would be a shame to miss out on valentine’s day. This is my thinking 
I’m not being mean. I’m just being obnoxious. I’m allowed! Everyone knows thats what I do. Its my … thing.
The red heart is a fun idea. We should all be made to give red hearts … at least six… to people for V-Day. I would give hearts toooo…. Hmmmmm….
T,L,P,E,D,S,T,V,M,T,L and maybe a couple to me… just because… I deserve them… and thats the only way I would get them.
Awww, and sentimental, too! Who knew?
And, hey, you did get a very nice cyber valentine from me today. It was all sweet n’ stuff, because that’s me. Sweet. N’ Stuff.
Happy Valentines you! I think this post is great. I seriously am so impressed with my single girls who get out there and dive into the dating pool like you’re doing. I hope you have a wonderful day today!