Obligation.
“Obligation”. It’s not a word I like, but I impose it on myself alot.
This week got completely and totally away from me for a lot of reasons. Mostly, when things start stacking up, I check out a bit. That, and I am weeks late getting my depo shot, but the effects haven’t been that noticable until the past few days, thankfully (or not, depending on if you are around me during my five minute mood swings) — Most of why I’ve been so busy is self-imposed, so I’m not going to list of a bunch of hollow reasons (err, excuses) as to why most of my friends and family haven’t heard from me recently.
But here’s the biggest thing I did which has actually caused me more distress than happiness in recent days: I posted a personals ad on Craig’s List.
Yep, I can actually hear some of you recoiling as you read that… But, on a whole it’s been extraordinarily positive. Except for one thing. I wasn’t at all expecting the overwhelming number of responses that I got initially: They numbered well over a hundred in the first two days.
Thankfully, most didn’t deserve a meaningful reply from me, but surprisingly, many did. And now, I feel really bad, because I quite honestly can’t sustain quality interaction with more than a few people at a time. This is on top of enjoying a very busy social schedule, because I do want to spend time with, and appreciate my friends. Who knew I’d have to find a better balance with just dating and socializing.
But, obviously I do. I’m going to have to figure out how to do that better.
So, I do apologize for not publishing my KRZR review when I’d hoped. I haven’t forgotten about it.
Lots to come over the coming week to catch up here on my blog — Including some dating stories some of you have begged me to write about. Good times! LOL… I shall.
In the meantime, have an incredible weekend… What have you got planned?
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Predictable… unfortunately. I stopped dating on the internet. I am less miserable than you arrree… Im less miserable than you areeeee… nah nah nah naaaaaahhh nah!
I have no plans this weekend – except the usual laundry etc……
And repacking my living history kit ready for Caerphilly Castle on MayDay.
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oops, Michele sent me, Netchick
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I actually me my wife on the internet about 5 years ago so it can work out for the best. My weekend includes work and a couple of viewings on our house so we can sell it quick and move to the KW area in Ontario (from the UK) – so fingers crossed!
I don’t envy you with the dating, and I wish I knew how to make it easier. Well, I mean, other than what we talked about which is a giant bachelorette type shindig with a panel of your friends making the initial cuts based on the hundreds of applicants who would be after the prize!
For this weekend, my back is still broken, but that’s OK. Today maybe a drive or something as it’s so nice outside, Reilly has gone for a walk already this morning. Tomorrow we shoot a wedding complete with a sherpa for me as I can’t carry anything LOL – but it will be good as the forecast looks good and they are a great couple. I’m looking forward to it!
darn, i missed the socializing game again! maybe next week …
anyways, netchick, you touched upon something that has been very much on the forefront of my mind lately. not with the dating (i’m happily married to a guy i met 14 1/2 years ago, through a telephone dating service, before the internet dating stuff started) but all the socializing opportunities/obligations that accumulate, to quite an important degree via cybercommunities. i keep thinking that there must be a way to manage/nurture/enjoy all these relationships; we’re just thinking about it in the wrong way (too linear?). a blog post in the making …
I think it’s totally cool that you’re getting out there. No need to feel bad about getting back to everyone. Go with your gut re. who deserves to be at the top of the priority list, and if it’s meant to be, then it’ll happen.
I remember when I was serially dating whoever struck my fancy all those years ago. I would worry that I was missing out on some of the most choice partners. Then I stopped fretting and just enjoyed the ones I was with.
Then I met The one, and we’ve been married for what seems like forever. And I wouldn’t change a thing. Sounds like you’ve chosen the right road, and I couldn’t be happier for you!
Hmmm, Isabella’s comments have me thinking of non linear communication styles…..
Time and the use of it can be such a stressful issue. I sometimes have to stop looking at the big picture and just think about a smaller segment of time and what I want to do with it. Are you setting yourself up to be overwhelmed?
Hang in there.
A friend of mine went through a few years after her starter marriage finished trying to find someone special and had quite a few misses. She was really frustrated for a while. She has since found someone via a friend and they’ve been happily married for several years (and still is).
I don’t understand why a beautiful and apparently intelligent woman should have to resort to Craiglist to meet a guy. I may just be really naive because I have not lived in Canada or the US for a while now, but I would think there are loads of guys trying to met women at bars, clubs, and even the gym. I think craigslist is really creepy. But good luck with your dating. I am curious to know how it goes. And as negative as this message may sound, I got nothing but love for ya.
I figured something was up.
I wish you luck on wading through the craigslist stuff. You’re made of sterner stuff than me – if I were in the dating pool I don’t think I’d have the nerve to try that.
Avi: I think the bars, clubs & gyms are generally full of much, much creepier people than those you meet online.
heh.. if more than one guy *emails* me in a week, I get nervous
I met my current sweetie on craigslist! And she’s definitely a keeper.
Quality of responses on CL is a bit hit or miss, but it’s fun and there are some good people out there.