Gave my head a shake, and it worked!
It’s no surprise to anyone who has read this blog lately, to find out that I haven’t been my usually happy, upbeat self for a while now. Obviously, there’s been some pretty serious things that have happened recently in my life that have given me good reason not to be.
Primarily, my Dad’s passing which happened on the first night of my cruise has caused much sadness; (and, quite oddly, I was to find out later that I knew when he’d died within about 30 minutes) Although, this grief I was experiencing meant that he was no longer suffering after three long years of fighting cancer, the whole circumstances surrounding how I found out, and the death itself still put me into somewhat of an uncontrollable tailspin for a bit there.
But after I returned from my trip, I gave myself time to think extensively about everything that has happened, giving much consideration to what’s important in my life, as well as spending almost a full day meditating and taking time away from the world and any connectivity to it. Now, I feel grounded again.
Better than that. I feel inspired and ready for the next chapter of my life to start to be written. The last chapter is firmly behind me now, and I’ve let go of the negative energy and superfluous matters that just shouldn’t be brought forward with me into what will certainly be a bright time ahead. I’ve got closure. It feels like all the weight in the world has been lifted from my shoulders.
Also, can I just say… Cuddling is so important to refill the human spirit. It’s amazing how being held makes all the world’s troubles disappear. Thank you, to my friend that always understands that.
And finally… I’m sending a huge, huge heartfelt thank you to everyone that has offered me a shoulder to lean on. My friends are quite simply, amazing.
My question to you: How do give yourself a headspace-change? Does cuddling factor in?
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cuddling may or may not factor in – i find going for a long run or something else really active does wonders.
Dear Tanya,
I hadn’t been to your blog in a while as I am down in Mexico having a wonderful warm holiday. But as I read your blog, I remembered that I too, had been out of sorts for a while. This post can tell you the whole story…
http://hummingbird604.blogspot.com/2007/11/i-am-back.html
In my case, I gave myself a headspace-change through a holiday with someone I care for very much. I needed to get a project done before heading to Victoria, and I tried as hard as I could to finish it off. When I realized that I could do it, and that I had actually done it, I felt really empowered. So the headspace-change was spending time away from Vancouver (in Victoria, in this case) with someone I care for a lot. That made all the difference. Hope this helps.
Love,
Raul
I’m really sorry to hear about your Dad. It must be a hard time for you. I hope the best for you for the new chapter of your life!!
Cuddling with my dog often helps. Does that count?
I find going for a long walk really clears up my head. Or if I can’t do that playing sports.
As a fellow Vancouverite, if I need a head space change, I usually head on up to Cypress Provincial Park in West Vancouver for a walk around Yew lake.
For me, being out in the mountain air and where it’s quiet gives me time and the silence I need to reflect on things. I’ve been known to sit by the lake for a couple of hours whilst turning things over in my mind.
If traveling up to Cypress isn’t feasible (esp in the winter!) then certainly, cuddling with my partner, and my crazy cat definitely helps!
Hugs to you. It is hard to convey comfort verbally….but I wish that it could be put into words. I journal a lot when I am upset.
Michele sent me and I am sorry that your father has passed. I know that you will miss him. Blogging about the neat things in his life would be great.
Again, hugs.
Lara: Yea, I find that activity works for me to a point. Unfortunately, it wasn’t doing so much for the extreme stuff, lately.
Hey Raul! Glad you were able to get back to your old self. Takes work!
…Thanks Heather. It’s a new chapter, for sure.
Donna: of course it does! Perhaps I’ll be able to borrow her from time to time!
Tawcan: I hear ya. Usually that helps me.
Dawn, welcome! I love Cypress — It’s such a beautiful place. That reminds me that I should definitely go cross country skiing up there again this year… And definitely snow shoeing at night. Much fun!
thebluestbutterfly… Thanks. I really hope to get back to blogging about fun and exciting stuff again really soon.
She’s very borrowable. And a good cuddler.
Usually a good treadmill run helps. I am sorry for your losss.It has just been a yeafr sincce our ffamily suffered a devestating loss, It isn’t easy. But you hav to find and hold ontothe good things.
Tanya, I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your dad. May you find peace and joy through good memories…and if cuddling helps – then by all means do so….
((Hugs)) to you, Tanya. Good luck with the headspace: but recognize that the grief you feel is normal. Miss him, miss him dreadfully, but remember him well too.
N.
Remembering someone well is important….continuing to express one’s love, instead of suppressing it, is comforting.
Cuddling always factors in when stressful situations arise.
I lost my mom 12 years ago. I wish I could tell you that it somehow becomes easier, but in reality it doesn’t. Sure, we all move on as we have to, but the sense of loss is always there. I don’t mean to sound negative. I guess what I’m trying to say is that you’ll find yourself living out positive memories as a way of coping. At least I do. I’m glad I found your blog tonight. Very moving and interesting stuff.
D’oh! Oh, and Michele sent me!!