Enough is enough!
I’ve been avoiding the dating scene for several months now, after going through not only a pretty horrific scene that I couldn’t blog about here, but also a string of dull dates with people I shouldn’t have said “yes” to.
But, enough is enough. One really bad experience that shook my faith and trust in men shouldn’t ruin dating altogether for me.
So, this chick is going to make herself available again — Starting with putting more effort into my appearance. I’ve been wearing jeans and a sweatshirt or sweater into work every day for months. Not that I’d find anyone during my workday, but, I’ve got to start somewhere. I’ve got 14 skirts in the closet — And there’s no reason why I’m not wearing them.
Also, I’m going to start being very particular about who I agree to meet with, from the online dating world. (And, yes, sadly, I have to date online as well as put myself out there IRL)
Finally, I’m going to get out to places where I can meet people outside my fairly large circle of friends. I’ll be taking a class in the evening this winter, and I’m going to start frequenting coffee shops again, after not doing that for years.
Can you think of anything else I could be doing to improve my chances? …Wish me luck! Brigadoon dvd The Recruit dvd
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suggestion:
A lot of people got to bars, restaurants with their work buddies/friends after work esp. downtown. Find out which of the interesting places people go to downtown after work, everyone is visiting, schmoozing, blowing off steam from work and the variety of people is well mixed. I heard that steamworks & Joe Fortes are good places to go to.
Also, ask your friends or acquaintances (who seem to be good at meeting people, finding mates) where they go to meet people/where they have successfully met people. This is a good way to uncover/find ideas that you might not have thought of before or at least what the new trends are. It’s kind of like market research ….
Get in on the free Running Room clinics with Team Diabetes and I bet you’d find boys! Or at least more girls who know available boys!
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I’m not good at giving advice to my hot single female friends, so I’m just going to say — all the best, good luck, and good for you for getting back into the dating scene!
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I met my wife 1) downtown 2) at a meetup group 3) at Steamworks, so I can vouch for previous commenters’ suggestions.
In my opinion, courses and meetups are the way to go. Meetups because they’re low pressure (they’re not about dating overall, so they’re less creepy), inexpensive, and low commitment ways to check out different groups of people. Courses for the same reasons, but you get to know the other classmates a bit better (for better or worse — if they turn out all to be married or not a good match, 8 sessions with that same group is no better than one).
Either way, you’re pre-selecting people who like the same kinds of things you do. Contrary to popular culture, I have almost no friends who met their SOs at a bar or club, or even a coffee shop for that matter, even though being visible at coffee shops is still way better than being invisible at home.
Hope this helps?
I’m glad you’re getting back in the scene! You know my suggestions re dating, so I won’t repeat them here (and for those of you who are curious, no, they don’t involve wearing tight snakeskin pants – not everyone grew up in Montreal, after all
Good luck & have fun!
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I met mine while gaming with him & his ex-fiancee.
Er… maybe not the most recommended route.
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Hee hee – if I knew, I wouldn’t be single myself, would I? ;P Lots of luck, Hon! Here’s hoping!
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All really great suggestions guys (okay, maybe not Donna’s lol… Sorry, D!).
@Tania — stay tuned here! I’m feeling really good about my dating future this time!
My gal pal threw a “singles party” where she invited all of her single friends (male and female) to come mingle and meet eachother. There was no pressure and it was a lot of fun!
Good luck, Tanya!
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Love tends to spark when you are not trying to find it and when you are most comfortable with yourself…not saying you should sit at home and wait…get out there and have fun.
@Brenna: Thanks
That’s a great idea… I’ve been considering it for a while actually. Maybe when I get back from my singles cruise?
@Cage: I totally agree. It’s been amazing these past few weeks, when I made my mind up that my perception needs to change. Wow, did things start changing when I decided that!! …More to come in future posts
Oooh, great idea! If you want some tips on planning a singles soiree, I’d be happy to loop you in with my girlfriend
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