Quietly stressing
I’m getting married in two and a half weeks. We’re moving into our new house in two and a half days. The logistics of it all are simply a little overwhelming.
I have to say, the stress of trying to plan the finer details of this wedding from a distance is starting to add up. Quite frankly, had I known how hard this would be (or how expensive the bills at the end of the day would be) I might have happily taken Barry up on his idea to elope. Those little curve balls that happen with every wedding, are certainly keeping me on my toes… I was firmly against running away to get married, because look where that got me, the first time? I wanted this day to be special and shared with those in our lives that we care deeply about.
So, rather than running off, and having quick “I do’s” on some far-away beach, I’m stressing about things like… my wedding dress. I had it custom made, from the UK. When I went for the fitting before we moved to Calgary, the skirt was too big, and had too much extra fabric. That meant, I had to have it sent back to London to be altered, and there would be no final fitting before the big day. ARGH! Now, the store that is handling it all isn’t calling me back. ARGH! STRESS! I’ll be leaving them a more frantic message this afternoon.
And, then there’s things like the table decorations, runners, gifts for the guests, and the decision of whether or not I’ll be getting a floral bouquet? I’ve already decided that if there’s going to be any cut flowers, there’ll only be one bouquet, and that’s it. It’s too expensive, and too much work to get the flowers to the boat when we won’t have a vehicle in Vancouver. So, I ordered much of what we needed from an online wedding supply store, except, I can’t take deliveries while we’re living with Al — The enterphone goes to his cell. So, we almost lost all the decorations back to the US, because there was a mix-up in the pick-up at UPS, after I called them three times telling them I’d be picking it up. ARGH.
How did I get to the point of creating a traditional wedding with all the trimmings? This really isn’t what I had in mind… I just wanted to have a party with my family and close friends, and not worry about all these logistics, and yet somehow, I bought into the “traditional” because “that’s how weddings are done”.
I guess I’m now being a typical bride. I never thought I’d be “that girl”. Don’t mind me as I curl up in a fetal position and and rock in the corner over here.
UPDATE: Thanks for the support guys. And, thanks so much Miranda for the call. I couldn’t have picked better for bridesmaids (Maids of Honour) — Miranda and Monica have been lifesavers.
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Try not to worry everything will work out it always does. If you need any help let us know we are here ready to help!
hugs,
just remember – only worry about the things you control… the rest is just what it is – it’s a day about you and your fiancee – and really, as long as you can make the two of you happy, the rest will fall into place
.-= Patrick´s last blog: The Issue of F =-.
Heh, I remember those days. Right down to finding out 2 weeks ahead that the decorator canceled our order because my confirmation email went to her junk folder (thankfully March isn’t a particularly popular time for weddings, so she didn’t have the decor booked for another wedding yet).
And don’t even get me started on the clusterfuck that was closing on our condo. Doing those 3 months apart was too soon, I can’t imagine 2 weeks.
Just keep telling yourself that “this too shall pass” (in terms of the craziness), and you have plenty of time once your lovely honeymoon is over to get everything back in order
.-= Jen´s last blog: Errrr….. hi? =-.
Take a slow, deep breath. Hold it for 10 seconds. Exhale for a count of 10. Repeat as needed.
Dear lady. Nothing is worth stressing. How are you going to enjoy it if you are stressing?
This day is about you and Barry. So long as the two of you are there and the people you love and care about are there, you’ve got the best day of your life covered.
What would happen if the bouquet doesn’t arrive? You and Barry and your loved ones will be together to celebrate just the same.
The reason for the day will go on no matter what the decorations or the boat or the flowers do.
I can’t wait to see pictures!
You can totally do this, Tanya! Much love, see you in a few weeks1
.-= Raul´s last blog: Win tickets to opening night of Prodigals #theatre =-.
I was kind of wondering when our non-traditional smallish wedding got to be as traditional and elaborate as it has become… I guess it’s just hard-wired into girls that thy want the day to be extra special. I get that. And without diminishing the fact that it’s a huge day for both of us, I just want you to remember that as long as we show up with the license, the commissioner pronounces us husband and wife and the boat doesn’t sink, I will consider it a total success! The rest is just details…
BTW, need any help with those details?
.-= IAmAJenius´s last blog: Holy Sheep! =-.
Trying to keep all those plates spinning is a daunting undertaking to be sure. But you just have to keep asking yourself “is it worth it?”
Hi, I just found your blog and read an older post about Hypothyroidism and saw that you got dessicated thyroid. We live in Calgary N.W. and my wife has hypothyroidism. Of course, no doctor will prescribe her anything because her blood tests are “normal” and it is making us both crazy. Please, can you tell me what Calgary Doctor you went to that was willing to prescribe this medication so we can make an appointment to see them? I am at my wits end and really need help for her. Help please, Thank you,
Jarret Ruminski
Hey Jarret,
Thanks for popping by! I know how positively frustrating it is dealing with the medical profession when dealing with thyroid and adrenal issues. I’m new in Calgary, (only been here a month yesterday) so I haven’t yet got a doc here that can prescribe dessicated porcine thyroid — Your best bet will definitely be with a naturopath over a endo (endocrine docs are very set in their ways with synthroid, which is hell to take).
Definitely visit http://www.stopthethyroidmadness.com and search for the group on Facebook — they have other options you can persue if the traditional medical system fails.
Drop me an email or comment and let me know how it goes. I’ll do an updated hypothyroidism post once I find a doc here who is more aware of these issues, and not just pharma pushers.
.-= Tanya aka @netchick´s last blog: Quietly stressing =-.
I’ve said this before but it rings true: Our wedding wasn’t perfect, but it was the perfect union. I have a feeling that everything will come together for you and Barry — and it’ll be *amazing*.
All the best and see you soon!
All the best!
Tanya, we all know you are an organisational whiz.
Just remember to breathe, and settle down to relax with an occasional glass of wine – after all, you deserve it.
Push comes to shove – local wedding dress shop, local florist, food delivery…….you and Barry…..be honest, for a successful wedding, all you need is a bride and groom who love each other
cq
.-= craziequeen´s last blog: Nailed it……! =-.
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